Conflict Resolution

My neighbor’s garden is TAKING OVER MY YARD

My neighbor put in a lovely garden this year, but half of it has encroached over the property line into my yard. Is there anything I can do and still be a good neighbor?

Recently, I read an article about an organization in Vancouver, British Columbia, called City Farmer, which helps residents set up urban gardens. It matches people who are looking for space to grow a garden with those who have a back yard or garden plot they would like to share. Although this sounds like a great initiative, you seem to have the problem of “forced garden sharing.”

It’s time for my aunt to move out of her house but she refuses

My aunt really shouldn’t be living alone anymore. She can get by with her nieces and nephews helping, but it’s wearing us out. She refuses to move – what can we do?  

As we age, our abilities and capacities become more limited, slower and somehow unpredictable. This is difficult for many seniors to accept because it leads to feelings of insecurity and fears about losing independence and autonomy. 

How can I tell my mom I don’t like “surprise” visits?

My mom “surprised” me by flying in for a visit. I had other plans for that weekend, and her unannounced trip really threw a monkey wrench into them. How can I prevent this from happening again without making her feel rejected?

Regrettably, some parents have difficulty understanding that their adult children have the right to live their own lives and make their own plans – and they must be respected. There are two possible reactions to this situation, and both have merits.

How can I get my adult son to grow up and move out of the house?

My adult son does not want to move out of the house. Any suggestions about how I can get him to grow up and move on?    

When discussing this issue it is important to remember that millions of adult children are still living at home and, in today’s economy, it is likely they are doing so for financial reasons. Still, it can be challenging for both parties.

Can men and women be just friends?

Can men and women just be friends? Or was Billy Crystal right in When Harry met Sally when he says that it’s not possible without romantic feelings getting in the way?

Psychologist Linda Sapadin wrote about this topic: “The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance. Now they work together and share sports interests and socialize together.”

Do we have to put our dog down because it bit a neighbor’s child?

My dog bit a neighbor’s child – it was the first time, and the kid was teasing him. Although the insurance company says the dog gets ‘one strike,’ our neighbors want our dog put down. What do we do with our beloved pet?

This is a no-win situation for everyone involved. I suggest a conversation between you and your neighbors. If possible, invite a mediator from the Humane Society to be present.


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