Marriage Matters

She says: I want to go to his high school reunion

Joe’s high school reunion is coming up and I was looking forward to meeting all his former classmates and their spouses. He wants to go to the reunion by himself, though, and I’m hurt that he doesn’t want to take me.

He says: I want to go by myself

I think Melissa will be bored with all these people she’s never met. And I’ll be worrying about whether she’s having a good time, so I won’t be able to relax and enjoy myself. I think we could spend this one social occasion apart.

He says: She posts too many photos of our kids on Facebook

Every time I open Facebook, I see pictures of our kids. I get that Michelle wants to share their cute antics, but I feel as if it's inappropriate to post pictures the kids may find embarrassing later. 

She says: He is overreacting, I get tons of "likes"

I think Josh is overreacting. The kids are too young to care about what's on Facebook, and my friends and family love seeing their pictures - I get tons of "likes" and comments!

He says: She is always texting, even during dinner

Jennifer is always texting, even during dinner. I’d really like to have an uninterrupted conversation occasionally, particularly at meals. I feel as if she’s never fully focused on us.

She says: I can multi-task, what's the problem?

I have a lot of people who need to get hold of me, often for work. I can multi-task and check texts and listen to Mark at the same time. I don’t see the problem.

He says: We should put our son in a group home

Our son is a good candidate for an adult group home, and I think we should consider it for him so he is settled somewhere before we die. Karen disagrees. It’s causing a rift between us.

She says: He’s happy at home with us

We have a loving home and our son is happy here. I think he should stay until we are no longer able to care for him. I don't understand why Jim doesn't see that.

He says: "I don't want to feel guilty about not going to mass"

I go to Mass on Christmas and Easter with Marybeth. But, I really don’t feel the need to go the rest of the year. I don’t appreciate Marybeth making me feel like a bad person or a bad Catholic because I don’t go to Mass.

She says: I'm sad he is not beside me in the pew at church

I go to Mass every Sunday, and I wish Sam would go with me. I really love our parish, and it bothers me that Sam doesn’t really practice his faith. How can I invite him to come to Mass without making him upset?

She says: All we ever do is argue

He Says: She is blowing this out of proportion

I think Jenny is blowing this way out of proportion. I’m stressed from work, and if she could just cut me some slack and stop nagging about every little thing, we’d be fine. We’re certainly not at a point we need the interference of an outsider. Marriage counseling is for people at the brink of divorce, and that’s not us.

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