Holiday dinners commonly provoke a round or two of family feuding. Whether it’s about the menu, the venue, the guest list or the topics of conversation, someone often seems to get his or her nose out of joint. What should be cause for celebration becomes cause for irritation. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Our son is a good candidate for an adult group home, and I think we should consider it for him so he is settled somewhere before we die. Karen disagrees. It’s causing a rift between us.
She says: He’s happy at home with us
We have a loving home and our son is happy here. I think he should stay until we are no longer able to care for him. I don't understand why Jim doesn't see that.
I go to Mass on Christmas and Easter with Marybeth. But, I really don’t feel the need to go the rest of the year. I don’t appreciate Marybeth making me feel like a bad person or a bad Catholic because I don’t go to Mass.
She says: I'm sad he is not beside me in the pew at church
I go to Mass every Sunday, and I wish Sam would go with me. I really love our parish, and it bothers me that Sam doesn’t really practice his faith. How can I invite him to come to Mass without making him upset?
He Says: She is blowing this out of proportion
I think Jenny is blowing this way out of proportion. I’m stressed from work, and if she could just cut me some slack and stop nagging about every little thing, we’d be fine. We’re certainly not at a point we need the interference of an outsider. Marriage counseling is for people at the brink of divorce, and that’s not us.
He Says: I think we can miss Mass occasionally
OK, I admit, I feel a little lazy on Sunday mornings. I’m not saying we should never go to Mass, but Kim wants us to drive out of our way, even when we’re on vacation, just to make Mass at a strange parish. I think that’s carrying it too far.
When we went to the training session for natural family planning (NFP), the couple touted how NFP brought couples closer. I feel as if it’s tearing us apart instead. Lisa seems to be interpreting the safe times in such a narrow framework that they’re almost nonexistent.
I want to join a small group at church that is for couples, but Jack is refusing to even give it a try. I think this would help us grow in our faith together.
He says: I don't want to sit around talking about my feelings
I actually think I'd prefer a root canal to sitting around and talking about my feelings. Can't Amy think of a different way for us to grow in faith?
Jim says: Our 16-year-old son, Kevin, sneaked out in our car and wrecked it. Maybe it’s easy for Sue, but I’m not sure I’ll ever trust him again.
She says: How can we have a relationship without trust?
Sue says: Jim doesn’t get it. How will we ever have a relationship with him if we can’t trust him?
Our youngest child just moved out! I was looking forward to having more relaxing time with Pam. But she seems to be gone all the time. I’m feeling more alone than I expected at this time of our lives.
She says: I just want to stay active in the community
I really miss all the kids’ activities, and I’ve realized all of our friendships revolved around them. I am trying to stay active in the community so I don’t turn into a recluse – which is what I think Jack is looking for.
Our son’s college roommates don’t have anywhere to go for Christmas, because their parents live too far away. I want to invite them to our Christmas dinner, but Terri says, “No way!”
She says: It’s the only time our family is all together
Christmas is my favorite holiday – and it’s the only time we are all together as a family. I know it sounds selfish to Phil, but I really don’t want strangers here during this special time.