Marriage Matters

He says: She lost a lot of our money shopping online

Kathy's online shopping got so out of control that she racked up a huge credit card balance. After I found out, she got some professional help, but I am having trouble forgiving her secrecy – and resenting the sacrifices to pay off her debt.

She says: I want to repair our relationship

I know that Mark is upset, and I don’t blame him. But this spending spree was during a time I was depressed more than six years ago – and I am really curtailing my spending now. If Mark can’t forgive me, how can we ever repair our relationship?

He Says: I'm afraid she's becoming addicted

I understand Michelle has chronic health problems, but she goes to multiple doctors to get different prescriptions for strong pain medications. I’m afraid she’s becoming addicted.

She Says: I’m in constant pain

I am in constant pain and can’t get enough relief from a single prescription. I’m not addicted, I am just trying to get through each day. It hurts and Adam doesn’t understand

She Says: We should plan our funeral

John and I should really plan our funerals and let our children know what our end-of-life directives are. However, he refuses to discuss it, or anything related to death. It’s as if he thinks he’ll never die!

He says: She’s being morbid

Listen, I know we’re all going to die, but I think it’s morbid to focus on it. Once we’re gone, we won’t care anyway, so why do we need to plan it all out? I wish Elaine would just let this drop.

She says: He won’t take his depression meds

Jim has been diagnosed with depression, and has been prescribed medication to treat it. But Jim won’t stay on the meds long enough to find out if they work. Does “sickness and health” also include stubbornness?

He says: I don’t like the side effects

I tried the medications, and I didn’t like the physical side effects, which are apparently pretty common. I can try beating this on my own, if Lindsey will just be a little more patient.

He Says: I don’t find her attractive anymore

I don’t find Cathy attractive anymore. She’s really let herself go, and I don’t feel any interest in being romantic. If she’d change, maybe things would be different, but, right now, I don’t see how our relationship can continue.

She Says: What happened to “for better or worse”?

“Letting myself go” means that I gained a little weight with my two pregnancies. And my hair is gray instead of blonde. Ryan is showing some age himself, but very little affection or love for me. What happened to “for better or worse”?

He Says: I want her to use NFP exclusively

Matt: I have come to a fuller understanding of the Church’s understanding on birth control, and I want Allison to stop taking the pill and use NFP exclusively.

She Says: I don’t want to risk getting pregnant right now

Allison: Easy for Matt to say – he isn’t the one who will get pregnant. We agreed to use the pill before we got married and I see no reason to change now. I don’t want to risk getting pregnant any time soon.

What do they do?

Sometimes you have to compromise in marriage, but not when it comes to sin.

We need to eat healthier food

She Says: I have an ongoing struggle with my weight – and the holidays are particularly hard.

I wish Andrew would be more supportive when I try to avoid all the fattening foods at his family’s Christmas dinner.

He Says: She is obsessed with dieting

My mom goes to a lot of trouble to make all the holiday favorites at this time of year – I know they’re not on Cari’s diet, but couldn’t she let it slide for just one day?


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