My ex-boyfriend won’t leave me alone. What do I do?

Your Life
Dr. Gelasia Marquez
July, 2013

My ex-boyfriend won’t stop calling me or sending me cards. We go to the same school, and he keeps leaving notes in my locker. How can I get him to stop?

Legally, harassment is an intentional behavior that is found threatening or disturbing. Your ex-boyfriend is harassing you.

Let your parents know that your ex-boyfriend will not stop bothering you. Next, talk to your ex-boyfriend. It is best that the talk takes place in the presence of a third person. Spell out clearly that what he is doing makes you uncomfortable and you want him to stop. In Scripture, we are reminded, “Give honor to all … (1Pt 2:17) That means honoring yourself and expecting others to do the same.

Document all episodes of harassment. Be as exact as possible with dates, times and people who know what is happening.

Most schools have harassment policies in place. You have the right to present your complaint.


Dr. Gelasia Marquez is a psychologist and family counselor.