A short time ago, I met up with a couple of friends for coffee at a small café, and ordered an egg tart. I wasn’t too excited about my choice, but it ended up being really tasty, so I went home to search online for recipe ideas to make my own. I came across a woman’s food blog, which featured a delicious-looking Portuguese egg custard tart. But my attention turned quickly from food to the place where she discovered it – in a small town just outside of Fatima, Portugal.
Somebody scolded my 4-year-old son in the grocery store the other day because he was running around. I was right there, and I don’t appreciate someone else interfering with my parenting.
What should I have said or done?
Sometimes, parents and teens disagree about how to spend the lazy summer months. Kids may see that time as an opportunity to explore an interest area, while parents understandably might be looking for their child to start bringing in some cash. What to do?
Following are some thoughts to consider as you discuss this together.
My son came home for the summer after his first year at college, and announced that he was no longer going to attend Mass, including when he is home. How do I talk to him about this without resorting to, “You have to go because I still pay your bills,” which would probably do nothing but lead to resentment?
My supervisor wants me to hire his nephew for the summer. We have other, more-qualified applicants – this doesn’t feel right. Is there a way I can say no? Should I go over my boss’ head?
Don’t go over his head. Get into his head. Diplomatically ask him three questions. If he gives perfect answers, it will go like this:
Question 1: Authority
You: Boss, I need your direction on this hiring decision. Is it my responsibility to hire for this job?
Boss: Of course. You have the authority.
Joe’s high school reunion is coming up and I was looking forward to meeting all his former classmates and their spouses. He wants to go to the reunion by himself, though, and I’m hurt that he doesn’t want to take me.
He says: I want to go by myself
I think Melissa will be bored with all these people she’s never met. And I’ll be worrying about whether she’s having a good time, so I won’t be able to relax and enjoy myself. I think we could spend this one social occasion apart.