Psychoanalyst Erik Erikson noted that grade school children demonstrate a sense of industry, wanting to help out with tasks. They are eager to grab a snow shovel or mow the lawn! It takes a lot of patience when we have little helpers joining in, but their sense of pride makes the effort well worth the extra time. Once kids hit the teen years and are competent in completing chores, much to our dismay, that enthusiasm is gone. To be fair, as adults we don’t always look forward to chores either; we just know they need to be done.
When we go to parties or out to dinner, Jeff always makes some snide comments about our friends afterward. I’ve asked him to stop, because it makes me uncomfortable.
He says: If she doesn't want me to talk, I'll just keep my mouth shut
Listen, it’s called conversation. If Linda doesn’t want me to talk, I’ll just keep my mouth shut. It’s going to make for a pretty quiet marriage if I can’t talk.
Q: How do I find true happiness in my career? I'm unhappy in my job.
A: A happy occupation is a worthy preoccupation. We’re wired for happiness. And let’s face it – work makes up the lion’s share of our waking hours. No wonder the writer of Ecclesiastes cites enjoyment in one’s toil as one of life’s greatest blessings. (2:24)
First, love God. Ground your happiness in Jesus Christ. If you direct your affections toward his infinite lovability, you’ll possess a happiness that is foundational, delightful and unshakeable.
Independence is a natural desire of our hearts. But what if you are dependent on your parents financially? How do you maneuver the careful balance of respecting their influence without sacrificing your life's desires?
1. Include your parents in your desire for independence. Ask for their guidance and exercise a grateful heart for all they do for you.
How can I balance wanting to continually change jobs to advance my career with appearing to be disloyal and permanently dissatisfied?
If you can’t be with the job you love...love the job you’re with.*
You might be posing a false dilemma. The desire to advance career and achieve your potential is good. That normally requires moving up, taking on new challenges, and new jobs.
Joe is always telling our friends what to do, and he doesn’t realize they’re rolling their eyes as soon as he starts imparting his “words of wisdom.” I just want one party where he listens and doesn’t talk – is that too much to ask?
He says: Why shouldn't I share the fruits of my research?
What can I say – I read a lot. Why shouldn’t I share the fruits of my research? I’m sure Marybeth is exaggerating – our friends love me!