Our family owns a restaurant and my siblings and I would like to update the menu. I think we need to change in order to survive. Our parents disagree and want to maintain the status quo. They say we need to "honor our parents."
One challenging aspect of parenting is realizing that children grow up and forge their own paths. It’s easy to forget how sometimes our own parents couldn’t fathom particular life choices that we made! When we look for wisdom in the lives of the saints, often we forget that they were ordinary individuals struggling to determine their own spiritual journeys. St. Jane de Chantal shared her desires for her children with her spiritual director, Francis de Sales. He responded by saying, “As much as possible, we must touch the hearts of others as do the angels, delicately and without coercion.
Before I begin, I would like to ask you to turn your eyes to your mother. While I am pretty sure your mother lived her life independently, now she has to lose her independence and rely on you two, her daughters, for basically everything. The parent-child role reversal is a humbling experience for your mother.
You and your husband are in the process of beginning a new and very important relationship between two different families, and often that involves using new titles. Sometimes, these new titles are used easily and without hesitation. But not always.
First, I would view your mother-in-law’s request to be called “mom” as a positive sign of acceptance and affection.
God calls us to bear witness to his truth and his love at all times. This is not always an easy task – especially when speaking about our faith with fellow Christian brothers and sisters. So how do we keep our words wrapped in Christ’s love and respect when we disagree? Let these three fruits of the Holy Spirit be your guide: