I love my mother-in-law, but ever since we had a baby, she’s driving me crazy. She is constantly telling me how often he should be fed, how long he should sleep and how long I should let him cry before picking him up. Matt just tells me to ignore her, but he is not the one dealing with the daily drop-in visits and nagging. And I’m afraid it’s going to get worse as our son gets older. I want him to tell her to back off.
Hallelujah! You have money in the bank and an itch to spend it. As a young individual with no real obligations or financial responsibilities to speak of, this is a position most people would envy. However, before you blow your funds on a fabulous vacation, let’s examine some other options.
1. Build a solid savings account. I know, that sounds boring. BUT – those financial responsibilities will be here before you know it and you will be happy you created some breathing room for yourself.
I run a small company and I’m often getting invited to employees’ parties for their kids’ events, like graduations, weddings and first Communions. I hate to offend them, but if I go to everything, my spring and summer weekends would never be my own. Can I pick and choose, or is it all or nothing?
Render to employees that which is employees’ and to weekends that which is weekends.
Sometimes, parents and teens disagree about how to spend the lazy summer months. Kids may see that time as an opportunity to explore an interest area, while parents understandably might be looking for their child to start bringing in some cash. What to do?
Following are some thoughts to consider as you discuss this together.
My son came home for the summer after his first year at college, and announced that he was no longer going to attend Mass, including when he is home. How do I talk to him about this without resorting to, “You have to go because I still pay your bills,” which would probably do nothing but lead to resentment?
My supervisor wants me to hire his nephew for the summer. We have other, more-qualified applicants – this doesn’t feel right. Is there a way I can say no? Should I go over my boss’ head?
Don’t go over his head. Get into his head. Diplomatically ask him three questions. If he gives perfect answers, it will go like this:
Question 1: Authority
You: Boss, I need your direction on this hiring decision. Is it my responsibility to hire for this job?
Boss: Of course. You have the authority.