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How can I negotiate more time off for the holidays?

How do I negotiate more time off for the holidays to be with my family? What words do I use?

Please? Pretty please? With sugar on top? I’m beggin ya! The words are secondary. What counts is your reasoning.

Since everyone wants more time off at the holidays, first consider why you should be given special consideration. What makes you or your circumstance deserving of preferential treatment?

When religious people make uncharitable comments

My brother asked me why, if religion is so great, he hears and sees so many uncharitable comments from religious people. What do I say?

This is a tough issue – your brother recognizes the hypocrisy in the sinful actions of Christians who claim to act righteously. • Remind him that Christians are human, and nobody is perfect. We all sin, despite our best efforts not to. We make uncharitable comments and do unkind things to those around us, just like everybody else. That doesn’t excuse our behavior, but we have to acknowledge that we are all sinners.

I don’t have the tools and materials I need to get my work done

I don’t have the tools I need to get my work done. Nor can I meet my deadlines. My computer is extremely slow, and I don’t get the materials I need in a timely fashion to produce results.

Tools and time. Reminds me of tool-time and the old sitcom Home Improvement. These are two simple problems. I presume you’ve posed them to the main problem-solver – your boss? Here are three possible responses to you telling your boss exactly what you’ve written above:

She says: We should donate only to Catholic Charities

I think we should donate only to Catholic Church charities. They do so much good work, and that way Jim and I will know our money is going to be used to help those in need.

He says: Other charities are important too

He says: I have strong feelings about donating to the Cancer Society and other organizations so they can keep up with the costs of cutting-edge research. Can’t Beth see that these organizations help people too?


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