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To be confirmed? Who makes the decision?

Q. My son has decided he doesn’t want to be confirmed. Is there something I can do to convince him? Should I force him to go through with it?

A. Your strong desire to see your son confirmed is natural since our Church teaches that confirmation deepens the grace that we received at the time of baptism. But the use of force isn’t consistent with the sacred nature of confirmation.

Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - June 2013

June 25

God created you with an inner nature that is centered on your free will. You were created to decide, to be decisive, to freely choose to love Him and respond to His callings, callings to bring His way, His truth, and His life into your inner world and into the world around you. Therefore you and I are constantly called to decide -- to decide to act not on emotions and feelings but rather on our convictions.

What influences my decisions the most, feelings or convictions? Urges or decisions to choose what God wants me to choose?

SHE SAYS: “I’m just practical. Why can’t Patrick see that?”

Sally says: I don’t feel as if I’m negative – I’m practical! You need to see all the possible consequences of an action before you do anything. I just don’t understand why Patrick doesn’t get that.

HE SAYS: “Sally is negative about everything!”

Patrick says: Sally is a real Eeyore – she seems to see the negative side of everything. I am much more upbeat, but it’s beginning to get me down as well. What can we do to resolve this difference in attitude?

Should my neighbors pay me for fixing their technology issues?

I work in information technology and I am always getting calls from neighbors in my apartment building to fix their wireless routers. How can I get them to understand that this is what I do for money? Shouldn’t they be offering to pay me?

These possible scenarios may be solutions to your questions:

You could exchange “favors.” For example, you know to how to fix the Internet, while your neighbors may know how to do plumbing work.


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