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Selfish or shellfish?

I never used to like seafood. Particularly shellfish. Extra-particularly, raw shellfish. Which never presented a problem on dates because no matter what briny, subaquatic, alien thing he wanted to ingest, I had the luxury of simply ordering something else. 

She says: “Our house is full of his junk!”

Mary says: Tim is a hoarder – our house is beginning to look like one of those TV shows, and I can’t get my car in the garage. I don’t know if I can live like this – how can I get him to get rid of his stuff?

He says:“I’m a collector, not a hoarder.”

Tim says: I am a collector, not a hoarder. I know where all the elements of my collection are. For example, I have an amazing group of vintage surfboards in the garage; they just need a little sealing and waxing to be really valuable. Mary needs to lighten up.

How can we “spilt the check” so everything is fair?

We went out to dinner with friends and did not drink – so we didn’t think we should have to pay as much of the share of the bill as the other guests, but someone told the waiter to “just split the check.” How could we have handled this – we ended up paying $30 each for two hamburgers!

It can be difficult to split checks fairly without antagonizing anyone in the process. To avoid any conflict you could talk openly with your friends about sharing the bill before going out to dinner.

To be confirmed? Who makes the decision?

Q. My son has decided he doesn’t want to be confirmed. Is there something I can do to convince him? Should I force him to go through with it?

A. Your strong desire to see your son confirmed is natural since our Church teaches that confirmation deepens the grace that we received at the time of baptism. But the use of force isn’t consistent with the sacred nature of confirmation.


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